NEXT THING YOU KNOW you're going to bed with his basketball shorts because you can't fit yours no judgement. You throw in a GI stamp, that's for another blog, you get where I'm coming from. When you calculate all of that....it makes romance hard to say the very least. Then God blesses your family with Autism and what is romance again. From my children not having a schedule that support day dates and my sanity not trusting babysitters, romance flew out of the window for a while. I remember a time where romance for my husband and I was pretending to set up a movie date at home. This event was code for eat food and fall asleep on the couch. I know right, that's super hot. You wanna know the worst part. I loved it. Then something happened.
I read an article one day that stated the divorce rate of parents with children with Autism was over 79 percent.
I realized that we had to date with intention. So my husband became my boyfriend. I began to write him love letters in his lunch box. He would sneak out of the room to help me sleep in, shutting the door behind him. We began mid-day phone calls or texts that weren't about meltdowns over the wrong color of pants.
It is our responsibility to maintain the friendships that we have with our spouse's. Who else can you laugh with, that will understand that you have to cut the sandwich a certain way because you've already had 109 battles earlier that day and you are surrendering before 110. Make your spouse your boyfriend or girlfriend for the day. Date with intention. Now I'm not saying it was easy, but I am saying small gestures lead to a stronger parenting cohesiveness especially when the crazy hits the fan in our home!
Hello Karaeah. I am a Pastor from Mumbai India. I am glad to stop by your profile on the blogger and the blog post. I am also blessed and feel privileged and honoured to get connected with you as well as know you as a child and a lover of God and His church, children and family and about you being a creative certified montssory teacher and educator. I love to get connected with the people of God around the globe to be encouraged strengthened and praying for one another. I have beenin the Pastoral ministry for last 41yrs in this great city of Mumbai a city with a great contrast where richest of rich and the poorest of poor live. We reach out to the poorest of poor with the love of Christ to bring heaing to the brokenhearted. We also encourage young and the adults from the west to come to Mumbai to work with us during their vacation time. We would love to have you come to Mumbai to work with us during your vacation time. I am sure you will have a life changing experience. Looking forward to hear from you very soon. God's richest blessings on you your family and friends also wishing you a blessed and a Christ centered reset of the year 2020. My email id is: dhwankhede(at)gmail(dot)com and my name is Diwakar Wankhede.
ReplyDeleteSorry for not acknowledging your boy friend. Thank you for introducing him.Praying for you both for seeking His will for your life. Pastor Diwakar Wankhede, India
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